Forgiveness is for the Abuser as much as it is for the Abused
Sin and Abuse are very closely related
Abuse is to mistreat, damage or insult
Sin is to disobey God
Sinners (abusers) cannot receive forgiveness unless they repent
When we receive forgiveness, that removes guilt
When we forgive others, we release them from spiritual bondage
Even more than this, when we forgive others, God is able to heal our pain
The bible says "what you bind on earth will be bound in heaven" (Matt 16:9)
"If you forgive anybody his sins, they are forgiven" (John 20:23)
"If your forgive a man his sin, I will forgive them too" (2Cor 2:10)
Jesus, while being abused and persecuted and put to death on the cross said:
"Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing"
Non-repentance should not stop us forgiving those who abuse us
If they fail to repent, their guilt remains
If we fail to forgive, our pain remains
There is a God who sees and knows everything
one day, perhaps soon, he is going to come and put things right
Judgment belongs to God
The Bible says "judge not and you will not be judged"
it says "forgive and you will be forgiven"
it says "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
"the measure you use will be measured to you"
"you will reap what you sow"
We all have to Stand before God one day
Remember the Parable of the Unmerciful Servant
Just as the abuser cannot receive forgiveness without turning from his Sin (repenting)
The abused cannot receive healing without first letting go of the offense (forgiving the abuser)