Sexual Problems & Sexual Sin

God's Law vs Man's Law



The Wicked will continue to be Wicked

If your Brother Repents, Forgive Him

Forgiveness is as much for the Abuser as it is for the Abused

The Abused can become Abusers if they Don't Forgive

Forgive or you won't be Forgiven

You are possessed by the one you Love

God will Give you the desires of your heart


Sexual Sins

The Lust of the Flesh - to desire somebody for sexual gratification

Seductive dressing and behavior - intended to tempt, entice, entrance, entrap, tantalize or manipulate

Adultery - sexual relations in violation of marriage vows (cheating on your partner)

Fornication - sexual relations before or outside marriage

Homosexuality - sexual relations with somebody of the same sex 

Rape - rape means to disrespect the boundaries of another person and to force something upon them; especially sex

Date Rape - forced or unwanted sexual relations in the context of a date (courting)

Rape by a Stranger - forced sexual violation of a person by a complete stranger usually with violence

Rape by a Close Relative - forced sexual violation by a close relative

Sodomy - forced sexual activity by a person of the same sex

Incest - unforced perverted sexual relations with a close relative

Child Molestation - deliberate malicious violation of a child's innocence; especially sexual

Sexual Acts in Public - intercourse, masturbation or fondling in public places

Pornography - producing or reading literature for sexual gratification

Prostitution - providing or obtaining sex for payment or reward

Sex with Animals - obtaining sexual gratification from an animal

Other Perverted Sex - oral & anal intercourse, homosexuality, orgies, sex with children

See God's Law



What is not Sin?

Remaining a virgin - (not engaging in sexual relations until married)

Marital Sex - (Consensual sexual relations within the context of heterosexual marriage)

Masturbation in private - (Stimulation of one's own genitals - not involving any of the above sins)

Wet Dreams - (ejaculation while sleeping - nocturnal emissions)


After puberty, normal men start producing sperm.  They need to ejaculate.  Most young men do not go more than a few weeks without having to ejaculate.


Sexual Problems which are not Sexual Sins in themselves

Impotence: Premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety

Inability to enjoy sex / trouble with arousal / not being able to achieve orgasm because of past experiences

Being unable to satisfy your partner because of painful memories that come to mind during sex

Not being in the mood for sex

Lacking Confidence



Does Christ's Blood cover Sexual Sin?

Yes - if you repent you will not go to hell

But you will have to suffer the punishment of Man's Law if you have broken them (unless the victim is able to and willing to drop the charges)

And you will have to face the consequences of your sin - (unwanted children, ruined lives, damaged relationships, jail)




Is the Church required by Law to report cases of Child Abuse to the Authorities if the abuser has repented or the victim has forgiven them?


Yes - particularly if it is recent, serious and the child is still at risk of harm or needs help

Most States have mandatory reporting laws for all professionals dealing with Children including Clergy

Reporting such cases should not cause a moral dilemma for the Church who are then free to advocate for and support the abuser if he/she has repented (in addition to supporting the victim and praying for the victim to be healed)

see Man's Law vs God's Law




Consequences of being abused - Demons

Blaming yourself for things that or not your fault

Believing your experiences are unique and nobody will understand

Believing that nobody will believe you if you tell them

Believing that God cannot help you

Believing that you deserved it

Believing that you are totally innocent or could not have prevented it (sometimes)

Believing that abuse is unforgivable (hatred)

Believing you are dirty

Believing you are damaged goods that cannot be fixed

Believing that God cannot heal you or forgive you

Believing that Sex is Bad

Believing that all men or women want to or will hurt you (paranoia)

Believing that all men or women have the same tendencies to sin (weaknesses)

Believing that you are inadequate

Over generalizing (eg believing touching, smiling, frowning, kissing, hugging, cuddling or winking are signs of evil intent) 



Sinning as a result of Abuse - Demon Possession

Abusing others deliberately

Tempting others deliberately to prove they are no better than the person who abused you

Tormenting your partner to test them




Unforgiveness and Hatred



Other Consequences of abuse

Self Mutilation - To manipulate one's environment or to punish oneself

Drug Addiction - to cope with the pain

Suicide - hopelessness & guilt

Depression - unfulfilled dreams - mental exhaustion

Anxiety - fear and inability to trust anybody including God

Psychosis - loss of contact with reality - going into fantasy world - to escape the pain or as a result of brain dysfunction

Stress - conflicting ideas, goals, values and relationships

Humiliation and disgrace - embarrassment, shame

Perpetuation of abuse in the next generation

Going from one abusive relationship to another


Inability to maintain a relationship

Personality problems



Common misconceptions about sexual sin and abuse - also Demons

Believing that all abuse is the same

Believing that one shoe fits all

Tarring all abusers with the same brush

Believing abuse is unforgivable

Believing abusers cannot change

Believing victims will invariably become abusers

Believing that forgiving abuse means putting up with it or tolerating it

Believing that abusers should not be treated kindly

Believing that punishment is the only way to deal with abuse

Believing that all abuse is deliberate or intended



Breaking Generational Curses




Isaiah 53:12  Therefore I will give him a portion among the great, and he will divide the spoils with the strong, because he poured out his life unto death, and was numbered with the transgressors. For he bore the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.

Isaiah 53:5 But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was upon him, and by his wounds we are healed.

John 3:14-21  Just as Moses lifted up the snake in the desert, so the Son of Man must be lifted up,  that everyone who believes in him may have eternal life.   "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.   For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.   Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God's one and only Son.  This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but men loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil.   Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that his deeds will be exposed.   But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what he has done has been done through God."

Romans 6:10  The death he died, he died to sin once for all; but the life he lives, he lives to God.

Romans 8:3  For what the law was powerless to do in that it was weakened by the sinful nature, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful man to be a sin offering. And so he condemned sin in sinful man,

Romans 3:21-8  But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.  God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood. He did this to demonstrate his justice, because in his forbearance he had left the sins committed beforehand unpunished-- he did it to demonstrate his justice at the present time, so as to be just and the one who justifies those who have faith in Jesus.  Where, then, is boasting? It is excluded. On what principle? On that of observing the law? No, but on that of faith.  For we maintain that a man is justified by faith apart from observing the law.

Romans 8:3  For what the law was powerless to do in that it was weakened by the sinful nature, God did by sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful man to be a sin offering. And so he condemned sin in sinful man,

Galatians 5:4  You who are trying to be justified by law have been alienated from Christ; you have fallen away from grace.

Titus 3:4-7 But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us generously through Jesus Christ our Savior, so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life.

Hebrews 4:16  Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.

Hebrews 9:22-10:14
In fact, the law requires that nearly everything be cleansed with blood, and without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.  It was necessary, then, for the copies of the heavenly things to be purified with these sacrifices, but the heavenly things themselves with better sacrifices than these.  For Christ did not enter a man-made sanctuary that was only a copy of the true one; he entered heaven itself, now to appear for us in God's presence.  Nor did he enter heaven to offer himself again and again, the way the high priest enters the Most Holy Place every year with blood that is not his own.  Then Christ would have had to suffer many times since the creation of the world. But now he has appeared once for all at the end of the ages to do away with sin by the sacrifice of himself.  Just as man is destined to die once, and after that to face judgment, so Christ was sacrificed once to take away the sins of many people; and he will appear a second time, not to bear sin, but to bring salvation to those who are waiting for him.   The law is only a shadow of the good things that are coming--not the realities themselves. For this reason it can never, by the same sacrifices repeated endlessly year after year, make perfect those who draw near to worship.  If it could, would they not have stopped being offered? For the worshipers would have been cleansed once for all, and would no longer have felt guilty for their sins.  But those sacrifices are an annual reminder of sins,  because it is impossible for the blood of bulls and goats to take away sins.  Therefore, when Christ came into the world, he said: "Sacrifice and offering you did not desire, but a body you prepared for me;  with burnt offerings and sin offerings you were not pleased.  Then I said, 'Here I am--it is written about me in the scroll-- I have come to do your will, O God.'" First he said, "Sacrifices and offerings, burnt offerings and sin offerings you did not desire, nor were you pleased with them" (although the law required them to be made).
Then he said, "Here I am, I have come to do your will." He sets aside the first to establish the second.
And by that will, we have been made holy through the sacrifice of the body of Jesus Christ once for all.
Day after day every priest stands and performs his religious duties; again and again he offers the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins. But when this priest had offered for all time one sacrifice for sins, he sat down at the right hand of God. Since that time he waits for his enemies to be made his footstool, because by one sacrifice he has made perfect forever those who are being made holy.

Hebrews 10:16-23  "This is the covenant I will make with them after that time, says the Lord. I will put my laws in their hearts, and I will write them on their minds." Then he adds: "Their sins and lawless acts I will remember no more." And where these have been forgiven, there is no longer any sacrifice for sin.  Therefore, brothers, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water.  Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful.

Hebrews 10:26  If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left,